Tomorrow will mark the three month anniversary of my wedding to Mr.Shahzadi. (That’s right, he’s taking my name!)
So I thought, why not write about the three lessons I have learned in the last three months of being married.
3. Marriage doesn’t make life easier.
I realize that life is harder now that I am married. Yes, there are two of us, I can make him take the garbage out and clean the bathrooms because I don’t feel like doing it. However, I have to realize that it’s not all about me. I know. SHOCKING.
I have had to understand that he had a way of life too, before I took up half his closet! I think I often forget that when I moved in, he had to change many things about himself. He had to stop wearing things that I don’t necesarily like… he had to eat “civilized”, essentially he had to be more husband then dude.
I think I have come to terms with the fact that even though my life turned upside down (like, entirely shifted the axis of my world), his life didn’t entirely become “easier”.
The fact is… he has to live with a girl… and i have to live with a boy… three months.. and I’m still not used to it.
2. Arguments will always happen… always.
Maybe I was a little naive to think that when we would get married, we would argue less. WRONG. We argue all the time. The type of people we are, neither one can be wrong. I guess it has to do with the fact that, this is the first time our arguments are taking place face-to-face, rather then over the phone. It’s hard to not go over-board when the person has no way of disconnecting the line or falling asleep while you are making your oh-so-very important point.
However, it seems that whatever we were fighting over just doesn’t linger forever. That is the most important to me. We fight. But, we get over it. Quite quickly! Thank God.
3. Nothing is worth more then each other
They say that the first year is the hardest. For us, it’s been a roller-coaster to say the least. But like all good amusement rides, they throw you for loops when you least expect it, it’s scary, it can push the limits of your sanity… but for some reason, we keep going back for more.
Mister, thank you for the amazing ride… Happy 3rd Monthaversary.